Reform Our Family Courts Now was started for one reason and one reason only. Our founder was in a very high conflict divorce and he saw what the constant years of abuse from his ex was doing to his children. The fact a person could use the family court system as a revenge tool with no one having any concern for his children but him was devastating. He saw attorneys that had no regard for law. He saw judges that had no regard for the truth. No matter how much he begged, he broke down in court and pleaded with everyone from the attorneys, judges and PRE and guardians ad litem to just make the abuse stop. I wouldn’t for 5 long years. He was falsely accused of horrific acts he had to defend against. He was forced to meet with psychiatrists and PREs to prove he was as good as a parent as his ex wife. He won almost every time but the cost was so damaging. He lost just about everything. The attorney fees and court costs were hundreds of thousands of dollars. He was mentally, physically and financially broken. He was not just depressed he was being pushed over the edge. He found it hard to function on a day to day bases.
At this point he tried to find anyone that would understand. Anyone that would listen. He stumbled across some Facebook pages like #ReformOurFamilyCourtsNow. At that point he realized not only was he not alone, there where hundreds of thousands of people across the country that weren’t only going through it but had the exact same story as him. As he was reading these stories it sounded like he was reading his own. He Realized at that point he wasn’t alone.
He knew at this point he found something to give him strength. Not only a fight for him and his children but fight for every damn child, father, mother and grandparent that is being alienated by a vicious and and angry ex. This is not a group only for men. Although most groups of this type have the word “father” in the title Reform Our Family Courts Now realized there were a lot of women with the same story. Good loving parents that had no idea how bad the system can be abused by horrible monsters.
At this point he knew what he was put on this earth to do. He began fighting for every child of divorce. Every person that was being abused by the system. He began calling anyone that would listen. From state senators and congress members to senators on a national level. He began knocking on doors. He began giving his number out to anyone that was in pain. He spoke to hundreds of people then that number became thousands. He realized that no matter what city, county or state they lived in the stories were almost identical. At this point he was flat broke and in debt from fighting his own battle. All he had was a ton of people on social media that supported the movement and the knowledge of webdesign and SEO. The Reform Our Family Courts Now movement was born.
We believe in 50/50 shared parenting, decision making and finance. 50/50 means no one wins but the children.